People say my tears will hold the soul back. Is it wrong to cry so much?

no — grief is love, and even Rāma and the Pāṇḍavas wept; let tears come, and turn them gently into prayer.

There is a folk saying, found in some texts too, that the departed are troubled by excessive tears. It was meant to encourage mourners to turn towards prayer, not to forbid sorrow. The epics are full of grief: Rāma wept for his father Daśaratha, the Pāṇḍavas mourned their fallen, and Arjuna's grief opens the Bhagavad Gītā itself. Kṛṣṇa does not shame Arjuna; He teaches him.

So cry when you need to. Grief comes in waves — numbness, anger, guilt, longing — and none of it means you are failing dharma. Over time, many find comfort in chanting God's name, reading the Gītā, sitting by a lamp, or doing something good in the loved one's name.

And please look after yourself: eat, sleep, let others help. If grief makes daily life impossible for a long time, speaking to a counsellor is wise and fully in harmony with faith.

Source: Rāmāyaṇa; Bhagavad Gītā ch. 1–2

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