Can ancestors be angry with us or cause problems in the family?

tradition pictures ancestors as loving elders; problems are better faced practically than blamed on them.

Some texts and much folk belief speak of ancestors being “dissatisfied” when forgotten, and this idea is sometimes used to frighten families. But the same tradition describes the pitṛs as kind protectors, pleased by the smallest sincere offering — even water and sesame. A parent does not stop loving a child because a ritual was missed.

When difficulties arise — illness, delays in marriage, money troubles — look first at practical causes and get practical help: doctors, counsellors, financial advice. Alongside, if you wish, remember your ancestors through śrāddha, tarpaṇa and dāna; this brings peace of mind and good karma.

Be wary of anyone who says your family is suffering because of an angry ancestor and offers an expensive cure. Gratitude, not fear, is the right relationship with those who came before us.

Source: Viṣṇu Purāṇa; common teaching of priests and ācāryas

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