Husband and wife come from different regions — whose customs do we follow?

traditionally the husband’s family customs for lineage rites, but most families today happily keep festivals from both sides.

In most Hindu traditions, rites tied to the lineage, such as the gotra used in saṅkalpa, the kula-devatā and śrāddha customs, follow the family the couple belongs to after marriage, usually the husband’s. Some communities differ, and the wife’s parental customs are still honoured for her own vratas and for rituals with her parents.

For festivals and food, there is no reason to choose. A Bengali–Tamil home can celebrate both Durgā Pūjā and Pongal; a Punjabi–Marathi home can light the Lohṛī fire and raise a Gudi. Children gain a richer heritage, and both sets of grandparents feel respected.

When customs clash, for example on fasting rules or which calendar to follow, discuss calmly and choose together. Respect, not uniformity, keeps a home peaceful.

Source: common practice; customs vary by community

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